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I would totally go see Sad Sushi or Sad Pastry!! Thank you for this as I am also a crying crier. I am the crying adult at work and the one all of my friends make fun of because I will cry for the silly-to-them reasons. I hadn't thought to stop myself, but I do tend to make jokes at my own expense when I can't seem to stop blubbering. Laughter - the best antidote.

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Laughter IS the best anecdote! Thank you for sharing, fellow crier. And I'll see you at the Sad Pastry or Sad Sushi show, ha ha :)

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As always, thank you so much for sharing, Alexa. My heart goes out to you thinking of the terrible day you had that led to your Holly Hunter moment. I wish I could have given you a hug - and I would have laughed with you about Sad Sushy and Sad Pastry (great band names indeed). Thank the Universe for humor and laughter!

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Thank you Isabelle! Such a pleasure to share with this community. So glad you’re here :)

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Jun 7Liked by Alexa Wilding

Sad pastry? When’s our first practice? I’ll be there.

Loved every sentence of this ♥️

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I knew you would be down for sad pastry!!!!

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May 23Liked by Alexa Wilding

I used to be really afraid of anger and confrontation and throw crying easily as well into that and it was messy. I knew this had officially become a therapy problem when eight years ago I started tearing up listening to two coworkers yell at each other over the phone in a meeting. Not at me, not having anything to do with me, just yelling while the rest of us waited for them to adult again. Looking back it was a pretty funny wake up call.

Now in my thirties…I cry more easily but less? Or more often but less actual tears? It’s tempting to align it with life/therapy/whatever else but that feels a bit too easy?? In any case here’s a clip that you can use in emergencies

https://youtube.com/shorts/7X043DFhwGU?si=My4TvKaV_pjJ4HNE

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Thank you for sharing, and oh my goodness, I'm going to use the girl complaining about the price of ice cream clip! Amazing.

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Thank you for this! I progressively say let the tears flow! I am a huge crier... and I always apologize, shake my head and wipe my eyes once I start crying. Something my husband lovingly imitates for me to get me to laugh. But I am so struck when I see people openly crying and never once issuing an apology. Why should we apologize for our tears? We never ever apologize for an eruption of laughter (unless it's inappropriate like laughing at a children's piano recital...). But we need both, laughter and tears, so why do we deem one unacceptable or shameful or something to apologize for? Thank you for your writing. It brings me great comfort!

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Yes, we need both! And so interesting that it's always our knee jerk reaction to apologize! So glad my words bring comfort. Here's to crying and not being sorry!

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